What are the keys to a good and lasting marriage? If asked this question most people would mention love somewhere in their reply, but to someone who has actually studied the whole issue of marriage that would not be their answer.
If you asked this question to couples who still have a good marriage despite the problems they have faced together then they will give you a different answer. Very few marriages are good all of the time, just like life is not good all of the time. Some marriages are in a mess and totally screwed up and beyond repair but it is the capacity to overcome the bad things together that make a marriage last and make it a good one.
There are a number of qualities which enable a married couple to survive the bad times in their marriage but taking joint responsibility for the marriage is vital.
A good marriage is where a couple…
- Have empathy for each other and understand each others hopes and fears.
- Have the capacity to forgive one another despite the hurt that they have gone through.
- Have hopes and aspirations for their marriage.
- Talk to each other about their deepest fears and emotions.
- Adapt to changes which are beyond their control.
- Laugh together.
- Cry together.
- Respect each other.
- Are real friends to each other.
All these different qualities add up to create the foundations of a good and lasting marriage. They are the basic necessities which enable a marriage to survive most things that life throws at it and prevent it from failing at the many hurdles which it will inevitably face.
Oh, and the glue that makes all these things possible is LOVE.
Have you your own ideas on what makes a good marriage? Please give your comments below if you have.
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