A man in the chat rooms ran away with my wife and ended my marriage. My wife actually met him on Yahoo Chat as many cheating wives have done, and still are doing at this very moment.
I haven’t seen him in person, which is lucky for him, but I know someone who has and they helped me to find his picture on the internet. He is not handsome and looks quite old, even though he is younger than me, which is a relief because she hasn’t chosen someone that makes me feel inferior.
I may regret writing this someday but at the moment I don’t really care about the future and it makes me feel better to get it off my chest instead of bottling it all up. Bottom line is I am past caring what happens now.
As I have no other way of relieving my frustrations this true story about his cheating with my wife will have to do… for now. If he doesn’t like it then tough because it is the truth. I have lost everything so what more can I lose?
Of course, I realize that my wife is not blameless either because as the saying goes, it takes two to tango. However knowing my wife a lot better than he does, I am sure she has another reason for running away with him, which he might not realize just yet.
The danger of chat rooms to marriage…
This so-called man carried out a seedy internet love affair with my wife via Yahoo Chat, which is how many sad, lonely men like him get their jollies with cheating wives. They build up a strange little fantasy world around their online girlfriend without a thought about the other man involved, the husband.
There I was, sat in the house while my wife was on her laptop talking in the chat room, not realizing plans were being made to run way with a man who regarded her as his girlfriend and whom she only knows superficially. Who would think that merely sitting and typing on a PC could turn into an affair?
Well, the fact is, this is happening right now to many thousands of unsuspecting husbands all over the world – and wives too for that matter. Take this as a warning if your wife or husband uses chat rooms a lot.
In most cases, the man she falls for online is a lot different to be man he pretends to be. In fact, lying is one of the main activities in internet chat rooms, because the truth is often not very interesting. Can’t let the truth spoil their sad little fantasies can they?
And this goes for the cheating wife too. She presents only her best side to him, leaving out important details such as the fact that she is still married and living with her unsuspecting husband who really cares for her. After all, she can’t let minor details like being married get in the way of an internet love affair, can she?
Back to the story…
In the weeks before my wife sneaked off with him, she didn’t even show the telltale signs of cheating… you know things like suddenly starting to take more interest in her appearance. I think she knew he was no looker himself (see his picture… lol) so she didn’t even have to make herself look good for him.
Anyway, the culmination of all this online cheating is that this man came over from Norway to run away with what he termed his online girlfriend – my wife in other words.
She never gave me any clue that this was going to happen and left late at night using a cover story to deceive me about her real intentions. This happened five weeks ago and I haven’t seen or spoken to her since, but I have heard a few things of what she and him have been doing and where they have been.
Looking back, I ask myself why I didn’t see the signs of cheating. Maybe I was too trusting and missed them but there weren’t that obvious. As they say, hindsight is a wonderful thing.
What he does not know is that my wife is very demanding and will start to control every aspect of his life in very short time. Apparently, he has a lot of money, which he will need if he wants to keep hold of her. I have no doubt that money was the clincher to the deal – you only have to look at his photo to see that looks were not important to my wife.
I think he will finally realize that she isn’t the woman she made herself out to be in the Yahoo chat rooms. I know how she acted online and, believe me, that is not the real woman I was married to.
Over the years, I have realized that she is a liar and a control freak who gets what she wants no matter what and will make your life miserable until she gets it. I really doubt she is capable of feeling real love for any man.
She has always been a good actor and liar, which is a handy thing to be when you are talking in the chat room packed full of men, many of them looking for sex chat. Men can be such suckers for a sweet voice.
Call me stupid but, despite all her faults, she is still my wife and I did care for her but she never gave me any respect for all I did for her. She finally showed me the ultimate disrespect by leaving me for a man she barely knows
So what will the future bring?
How long this affair will last until he realizes what my wife is all about is anyone’s guess. Looking at his picture (which I found on his various internet profiles), I suspect he is a weak and lonely man and will put up with her demands just to keep her, but I very much doubt it will be a loving relationship. She will treat him like a doormat once she has him under her spell. It will be a give and take relationship, with her doing most of the taking as usual.
He will find that out before very long but he may be stupid enough like me to put up with it. My fervent hope is that she messes with his head just as she has messed with mine for many years, and that their relationship falls apart in a very short time.
Whatever, happens, I am resigned to the fact that she won’t be coming back to me and that my marriage is over. Time is a great healer as I have found out after losing loved ones before, but it will never hide the scars.
Update:
My wife came back after just over 6 weeks away and it looks like this internet affair has fizzled out. I don’t think it was anything to do with real love anyway on her part. She has shown no remorse over what she has done, which is par for the course.
We are not arguing over what has happened because what’s done is done and life is miserable enough anyway without adding to it. We are keeping our distance from each other apart from discussing the practicalities of everyday living in a civil manner.
It’s some comfort that she is not with anyone else but the marriage is over now and I am just waiting to find a place to move out to. It’s time to move on and rebuild my life.
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