Have you ever felt like spying on your spouse’s computer because you suspect they are involved in online cheating with someone in the internet chat rooms? It might not be morally right to do so, but some people have only found out about their partner’s online cheating when it is too late.
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Recognizing you have a marriage problem is the first step along the road to transforming your marriage, and for most couples simply acknowledging there is a problem shatters the marriage myth. According to love stories, movies, and fairytales we are supposed to live ‘happily ever after’. But what happens when Snow White develops a drinking problem? What happens when Robin Hood’s long working hours start affecting his marriage to Maid Marian? What happens when Cinderella says she has ‘fallen out of love’? (more…)

Good marriages are not made in heaven. They are very much made on earth, and between couples who have respect for each other. Without respect, no marriage can survive. If the man has ego, the woman has vanity. The two can’t meet unless each learns to accommodate the other. (more…)

We don’t need the services of a psychologist to tell us that the best marriages are those that are based on good communication. Yet, we rarely try to mend our ways. We carry on along our paths, hoping that somehow everything will fall into place.

At times, it does – thanks to the efforts of our partners. But mostly it does not. We allow the fault lines to deepen and reach a stage where they can no longer be bridged. (more…)

Co-dependent marriages are the most abusive form of marriages. They are based on need, but are not healthy. Each partner in the marriage tries to take advantage of his or her hold on the other partner. This can often deteriorate into the sort of marriage where the two partners can neither live together nor live apart. (more…)

Look, I have to level with you. I have a strong bias toward maintaining a marriage. I’m not stupid, however. There does come a time when enough is enough. A sex problem can escalate into complete emotional apathy. Physical or emotional abuse can result in apathy, and maybe even enough real threat to cross the line. There are real reasons for ending a marriage. (more…)

How can you put the romance back in your sexless relationship? Well, there are two ways to put the romance back in your relationship. One way is to move back, and the other is to ahead. (more…)

Sexless marriages are one of the most painful causes of divorce. A lack of sexual intimacy in a marriage is a common reason for a marriage to fail and finding a solution isn’t easy. (more…)

Jealousy has often been called the “green-eyed monster,” and with good reason. The “monster” is fueled by envy and can over time devour the trust and harmony in a relationship. (more…)

For 30 years I have been working with individuals and couples as a Marriage and Family Therapist, and over that time I have heard a lot of stories about the struggles couples are having in their sexless marriage. Here are the TOP 10 Struggles in a Sexless Marriage. (more…)

There’s no one simple answer to the question that I’m often asked, “Should I stay in my marriage, even though I’m unhappy, or should I leave?” It’s impossible to give a “one size fits all” response because every marriage is different.

But there are some general guidelines that you can consider if you’re in this situation. Use these thirteen tips to reflect on your marriage, your energy level, your commitment, and the degree of your dissatisfaction. (more…)

Healthy marriages require time, attention, energy, and vigilance. It’s not realistic to think that you can have a super marriage without effort on your part. And the truth is, to stop divorce from wrecking a home, a smart spouse must be aware of the danger signals. (more…)

My husband won’t talk with me. I don’t want to become a nag, but I am afraid that is exactly what is happening to me. I am so frustrated. How can I get him to talk with me? (more…)

Improving your marriage doesn’t necessarily have to involve huge changes on your part or your spouse’s. Many times, the cumulative effect of small changes can make a significant difference in the quality of a relationship.

It can be discouraging to only focus on the big, sweeping long-range changes that you feel are needed, such as improved communication or increased intimacy. Instead, focus on making several small changes that can affect the quality of your relationship right away. (more…)

In Part One, we looked at what wives really want in a husband and we identified two things in particular. Wives want a soulmate who they feel deeply connected to and they want emotional support and emotional intimacy. This means that they want a husband who will talk about his feelings and who values having an emotional connection. (more…)