Save the Marriage is a highly popular marriage advice ebook which has saved a high percentage of marriages from the pain of separation and divorce.The author, Lee Baucom, Ph.D was trained in traditional marriage counseling methods but one day he concluded that these methods simply didn’t work as well as they should and in fact could make things worse!
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From his studies on marriage problems, he discovered:
- Nearly 50% of couples that undergo marriage counseling end up getting a divorce.
- Only 10% to 20% of couples get any help from traditional marriage therapy.
Lee Baucom Ph.D.
Feeling that these statistics showed that marriage counseling was failing to help so many couples, Lee then set out to create a radical new solution to help couples in a troubled marriage.
5 years of trial-and-error finally paid off when he found that his new methods for saving a marriage produced a success rate far higher than the one achieved by standard marriage counseling techniques.
His methods have even been successful when only one spouse was trying to save the marriage which by conventional methods was seen as impossible.
Lee’s admits at the start that his writing style is not academic more a conversation which makes for a much better read. So, don’t expect a dry, academic writing style from Lee.
He writes as if he is talking to you personally and every so often throughout the book he has a section called “Your Turn” where he asks some searching questions designed to make you think about your own marriage.
Lee uses metaphors and images a lot which do help to clarify difficult issues. As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words, especially with a difficult subject like this. I could also relate to the typical marriage issues he used as examples.
The ebook is 159 pages long and I will give a quick synopsis of the main chapters.
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Chapter 1:
Lee explains what he believes is the real reason why traditional marriage counseling fails to help most married couples. He tells you how communication is still an important factor in any marriage but not the main one.
Chapter 2:
This chapter deals with control issues that happen within a marriage and the power struggles which can cause so many marriage problems.
Chapter 3.
Recipe of a successful marriage.
Lee shows you the three main ingredients for a successful marriage and how they interplay with each other to create a better marital relationship.
Chapter 4:
This chapter looks at the real purpose of marriage and how so many couples don’t a clear idea of what it is.
He also tells you about a crucially important part of any marriage that almost guarantees divorce if it is missing.
Chapter 5:
One of the stand out chapters for me was this chapter.
Three Simple Secrets to a Successful Marriage
If you want to know the real secrets to a successful marriage then you will find out in this chapter.
Chapter 6:
Is your marriage in a downward spiral? Discover how to get it going in the right direction again …UP.
Chapter 7:
Don’t ask yourself whether you are still in love.
In this chapter, Lee gives you a number of strategies to reconnect with the lost feelings in your relationship.
Chapter 8:
This explores the issues of emotions more fully including anger.
Chapter 9:
This chapter is about how each person in a marriage has their own viewpoint of the world and when these two are radically different in one important area then marriage problems will occur.
Chapter 10:
This addresses the vital role of boundaries in a relationship, which to me is one of the most important chapters in the whole book.
Every marriage relationship has boundaries and when some of these “No-Go” areas are crossed then conflict happens. Lee shows you the four basic steps for setting these boundaries and the right way to go about it so as not to cause conflict
He also gives an example of someone who tamely allows his boundaries to be crossed just to keep the peace in his troubled marriage. Fortunately, one day he wakes up and does something about it!
This information is so useful that it will not only help your marriage but could be used in any relationship.
Chapter 11:
This looks at how you can give the benefit of the doubt to your spouse instead of automatically assuming that they are hostile towards you when they really aren’t. Also teaches you how to forgive.
Chapter 12:
Lee teaches you about the four stages of intimacy, from the start of a relationship to the final acceptance and appreciation of each other.
Chapter 13:
Understanding how your different moods can affect your relationship.
Chapter 14:
How living in the past is a barrier for changing a marriage and why you must make the most of the present.
Chapter 15:
Sex is obviously a very important part of marriage and this looks at how it can become a source of trouble. Lee shows you how to take a different approach to help you discover a sexual relationship that is fulfilling for both and helps togetherness as a couple.
Chapter 16:
How a couple deals with money is often a source of conflict in a marriage and Lee looks at how it can be used as a tool for personal development. At the end there are some questions to help you to understand where your own attitudes towards money came from.
Chapter 17:
How relationships change over time and should not remain static but should evolve in order to improve and survive.
Epilogue:
Final words from Lee.
Verdict: Save The Marriage
Le
e Baucom, Ph.D makes sense of a difficult subject and explains things for the most part with simple examples which help you to understand the psychology of marriage and relationships. Some parts are a little hard to understand but that does not detract from the ebook as a whole as it contains a lot of good sensible advice presented in a conversational style.
The ideas and information given in ‘Save The Marriage‘ at times go against traditional marriage counseling techniques, which have a poor success rate at preventing divorces anyway, so any improvement on that is a welcome development.
Lee claims ‘Save The Marriage’ has helped over 41,000 people with saving a marriage – and with a very high success rate compared to standard marriage counseling.
The ebook has even been stolen three times by others who tried to sell it as their own work. Like me, and the couples that it has helped, they must have realized how good it was too!
Therefore, if you are having marriage issues then you have everything to gain, and nothing to lose by buying ‘Save The Marriage’.
Many otherwise healthy marriages have some or all of the problems mentioned… your situation is not hopeless, but you need the
right strategies to overcome them. Save the Marriage can show you how to do this.
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