My Wife Just Left Me for Another Man

The title says it all really; my wife just left me out of the blue for another man. And do you know where she met him? In a chat room.

She had been going on chat rooms for a few years and she had gotten emotionally involved with another man three years earlier but we managed to patch that up.

She stayed off the chat rooms for a while and then started going on them again but she seemed like she had learned her lesson so I didn’t really mind. Maybe I am too easy-going and trusting for my own good.

What a mistake that was.

Right up till she left I had no idea she had been getting seriously attached to a man in the chat room. Looking back now, I should have recognized the signs. She started getting calls on her phone and left the room to answer them, making out it was her older sister and the room was too noisy to talk properly.

It must have been the other man calling her all the time, right under my very nose.

Things had been getting a bit strained lately, she was never satisfied with anything I did for her and criticized me for the slightest reason. She also wanted her privacy when she was in the room with her laptop.

Just before she left, she told me she was going to stay for a few days with her two sisters in one of the sister’s static caravan on a local holiday park.

I assumed she was telling the truth, despite knowing what a consummate liar she has always been. Of course, she was lying and it was just a pretext for meeting him somewhere. I don’t know if she had decided to actually leave or was just going to have a quick fling and come back home, with me none the wiser. Maybe she changed her mind after meeting him, or he changed it for her.

When she left me late one Sunday night, around 10pm I was upstairs and never got to see her off. I only found out on the Tuesday morning that she had left because my eldest daughter came round and told me. To be honest, I wasn’t too shocked because I knew what a devious person she was and nothing surprised me any more.

The thing is, she is over 50 and a mother and grandmother, with beautiful grandchildren who she loves dearly – but she has thrown it all away over someone she doesn’t really know in person. I believe she is having a ‘Shirley Valentine’ moment like so many women of that age.

At the time of writing, just two weeks later, I still don’t know where she is, although I know a little about the man she has run away with. It seems he has plenty of money so that would have been a big attraction for her, apart from anything physical. Money problems due to her spendthrift ways has always been a major source of conflict in our marriage so maybe that was the clincher for her to leave.

I know I won’t be saving my marriage after this. I don’t want her back because she will never change her ways. I just thought I would get this off my chest and let everyone else know about the dangers of chat rooms. Lot’s of stuff goes on in private in them and this kind of affair has happened to loads of other marriages.

Please don’t be a fool like I was. Chat rooms can be marriage killers.