We don’t need the services of a psychologist to tell us that the best marriages are those that are based on respect and good communication. However, some married couples suffer from a lack of communication with each other, thinking that somehow everything will turn out all right, which is unlikely.
At times, a couple will survive a lack of communication in their marriage – thanks to the efforts of one partner, but sometimes it does not. They allow the emotional distance between them in the marriage to deepen until it reaches the stage where it can no longer be bridged. So what can be done about this to help the marriage survive?
Respect Your Spouse
The first requirement to have good communication within a marriage is to respect each other. A man who considers his wife inferior can rarely, if ever, develop a good relationship with her. The same is true of women. If they look down upon their husbands then they can never hope to gain their confidence and affection. Lack of respect in a marriage is one of the warning signs to be aware of.
Take more notice when they talk to you.
Good communication also requires good listening skills. A husband and wife must learn to listen to each other and pay attention to each others thoughts and feelings. Problems in a marriage often develop because the husband and wife don’t take much notice of what each other is saying. This lack of interest in what they have to say can be very frustrating and can lead them to bottle up their problems until one day they finally explode in anger.
Show proper concern when they have problems.
There should also be empathy which means that you must show real concern when things go wrong. This is an unspoken communication that does not need anything to be said as your body language reveals it to your spouse. As an example, during stressful moments, you feel much better if your spouse holds your hand whilst telling you that everything will be all right. Suddenly, you don’t so feel alone and the relationship in your marriage deepens.
Talk openly about personal problems.
Another way to build a relationship is to discuss uncomfortable issues with your spouse. It is embarrassing to tell your spouse how your boss has mistreated you or how you have made a fool of yourself before your colleagues. It requires great courage to own up your faults in front of anyone but you should be able to with your spouse.
If you have a caring wife and believe that she will stand by you, then you will be able to talk honestly and openly about things that hurt your self esteem. You will find that you have removed a big psychological load off your mind by talking about it to someone who cares for you. By doing this, the emotional bonds between you and your spouse will become much stronger.
Simple acts of love mean a lot.
The same applies to sexual relationships. Couples find lovemaking improves when they respect one another, and communicate better with each other. The communication need not be through words alone but through simple physical acts such as stroking, caressing or holding hands. Things like this are a great form of natural communication which overcome resentment over perceived or actual slights, and help to generate positive feelings all round.
What it all comes down to is having mutual respect and admiration for one other, as in a deep friendship. Friends like to be with each other because they enjoy each others company and are open and honest about themselves. This is the basis of a successful marriage too.
by Anthony Bradley
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Wife and husband must have good relationship. Share your ideas and problems. Don’t hide anything from your spouse.Each one should be openhearted and able to agree their weaknesses also.We must create strong bond between us. We must respect others ideas.We will create peaceful atmosphere at home.Don’t discuss about mistakes happened in past. That is the wrong thing. We must have adjustable mentality. Don’t argue for longer time. I think most couples are taking divorce because of misunderstandings only. So be happy with your spouse.
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The article exposed the exact thing which have to be between a wife and husband. I agree that first they have to respect each other and having no misundrestandings. They have to feel the respect and try to have a good communication.Really they have to share things about uncomfortable issues, they dont have to hide between them. By exposing all their feelings can do better communication between them.The post is very useful for the couples who doesnt care about communication between them.
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